Tuesday, July 26, 2011

The 6 Components of a Happy Life



Simplicity


The route to happiness isn’t difficult. Happiness is not dependent on amassing a certain amount of fame or wealth; happiness is not dependent on reaching a certain social pecking order. If we are always striving after something bigger and better, happiness will remain elusive.

Happiness is found in the present moment, not some dreamed of golden future. We need to learn the art of being content with our current situation. Our current life may be far from perfect; but, if we can detach from negative situations and appreciate the value of simplicity happiness becomes easier to cultivate.
Live in the Heart

If we only live in the mind we look at every situation with our critical judgmental mind, as a consequence, we will inevitably find innumerable faults with the world and with other people. When we are constantly criticising others we can find neither peace nor happiness. However, if we live more in the heart we have a more tolerant, accepting attitude towards others. The heart’s qualities are acceptance and oneness. Children find it is easy to see happiness in the most ordinary situation because they are more in the heart. At times we need to distance the critical mind and take a simpler, childlike view of life.
Control Over Your Thoughts

When we feel like helpless victims of our own negative thought streams — how can we hope to be happy? To cultivate happiness we need to cultivate positive thoughts. This means stopping negative thoughts and replacing them with good, inspiring thoughts.

Avoiding negative thoughts requires practice. Meditation and concentration exercises can help us control our thoughts. But sometimes the best way to prevent negative thoughts is to concentrate on something positive. It’s your own thoughts that take you to heaven or hell, so be very careful with what is allowed into your mind.

Gratitude

If we show no appreciation for others and for life, we create a narcissistic outlook. We focus excessively on our sense of self and ego. When we offer gratitude for small things in life, it helps us feel a broader identity and awareness; our consciousness expands and we bring to the fore our own positive qualities.

Gratitude has tremendous power; if it is sincere and heartfelt it makes a big difference to our outlook on life. Gratitude helps bring to the fore a sincerely positive attitude to life.
Active
Happiness is easily found in usefully serving others. Activity doesn’t mean filling up our lives with as many activities as possible — this only leads to a sense of self-importance and stress as we struggle to do several things at once. But, if we are calmly active we find a sense of purpose in life; this sense of purpose and satisfaction helps cultivate an inner sense of satisfaction.
Physical Exercise When you take regular exercise you will feel many benefits. Firstly, when we look after our body we are less prone to lethargy and illness. Through developing our fitness we gain an increased sense of self esteem; this is because we are taking active steps for our self improvement.

Increasing our fitness also enables an increased sense of mental well being; exercise helps rid the mind of many useless thoughts. It is important to have the right attitude to exercise, don’t think of school P.E. lessons in the cold rain; getting fit doesn’t have to be torture — you can easily find a sport or some exercise that is enjoyable and sociable.










Written by: Telvan Pettinger





Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Just Give Thanks; the Importance of Appreciation & Gratitude

Sometimes we become so busy we forget the importance  of saying "you are appreciated", "I was just thinking of you" or just "Thank You" in both our professional and personal lives.

By acknowledging  someone's value, you show someone not feeling valued how much you  appreciate them.
Lack of acknowledgment can negatively impact any relationship and by the same token, any relationship can be improved when you acknowledge someone's efforts.
Saying "thank you","great dinner", or "I love the way you....." says I recognize your efforts, support encouragement.
Recognition, appreciation and gratitude can strengthen your relationships as well as offset arguments  & conflict.
Apply appreciation to all your relationships.
Show an employee that constantly exceeds your expectations or customer service rep that goes the extra distance to help solve a problem that you see their efforts. Take the opportunity to brighten someone's day while strengthening  your relationships with a "thank you" or "I appreciate you".
Not only does it make them feel good but you as well.
If you concentrate on finding good in every situation you will find that your life will be suddenly filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.
It doesn't take much to make someone feel valued!


By the way, gift baskets, careboxes and personalcarepaks are an excellent, cost effective way to do this, but a simple statement works as well!

Sunday, May 8, 2011

My Poem for my Mom, In Passing Happy Mothers Day!

Sometimes Mom in passing would pat me on the back
And sometimes in passing  she'd show me the right track.

Sometimes Mom in passing would say, "You look very nice!"
And sometimes in passing  she could make me think twice.

Sometimes Mom in passing would lightly touch my hair
And sometimes in passing she'd show me what was fair.

Sometimes Mom in passing would ask, "What do you mean?"
And sometimes in passing she would get in between.

Sometimes Mom in passing Would give me, "that look"
And sometimes in passing  Mom would give me what it took.

But I know my MOM, has passed from this world to the best
And this time in passing  she passed the final test.

And now that she has passed  and the pain is so unkind
I just look at me and find HER in the mirror, in my heart and in my mind.

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Grandma's too! To Vergie, from your G-babies!

And Grandma's too...
While we honor all our mothers
with words of love and praise.
While we tell about their goodness
and their kind and loving ways.
We should also think of Grandma,
she's a mother too, you see....
For she mothered my dear mother
as my mother mothers me.

Friday, May 6, 2011

BEFORE I WAS A MOM

I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.
Before I was a Mom -
I cleaned my house each day. I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on - Pooped on - Spit on - Chewed on, or Peed on. I had complete control of my mind and My thoughts. I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests...or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life
so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay. I had never known The warmth, The joy, The love, The heartache, The wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.

Thursday, May 5, 2011

My Mother Kept a Garden

My Mother kept a garden,
a garden of the heart,
She planted all the good things
that gave my life it's start.
She turned me to the sunshine
and encouraged me to dream,
Fostering and nurturing
the seeds of self-esteem...
And when the winds and rain came,
she protected me enough-
But not too much because she knew
I'd need to stand up strong and tough.
Her constant good example
always taught me right from wrong-
Markers for my pathway
that will last a lifetime long.
I am my Mother's garden.
I am her legacy-
And I hope today she feels the love
reflected back from me